I really believe you need to drive the narrative of your own life, ya know?
I came into 2017 with several wishes, serious resolutions, knowing that this was a big birthday year.
Man, knowing that you’ve lived half a century puts a lot of stuff into perspective. Time to stop wishing for “some day” because this is it. THIS IS IT. This ain’t no dress rehearsal, this is the show, sister!
Having taken an assessment of how things were going, I have to admit that some things in life are going better than ever, marriage and child raising among them. Don’t ask me how we pulled that off…all I can say is my husband Ryun and I have stuck together no matter what through some pretty trying times. We’re a team and we raise our kids that way. Good thing we see eye to eye on nearly everything when it comes to kids.
Don’t get me wrong, child raising – and marriage for that matter – kicks my butt. I can’t tell you how many times I feel like I am submerged in water, flailing on my tippy toes, grasping for air. I can’t imagine not working while I raise kids (ok, while we raise kids, but hey, this is my blog, so there…) but there are not enough hours in the day to devote to the kids the way I’d like. I wish I knew that going in…but I’m the breadwinner and I prefer the lifestyle I can provide for us by playing that role. And while I have always tried to succeed professionally (academically, intellectually…), I hold that Jackie Kennedy Onassis quote close to my heart:
“If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do matters very much.”
In a departure for myself however, my goals for 2017 were not kid, marriage, or even spiritual ones. They were of the “put the oxygen mask on yourself first” nature, more personal, along these lines:
1) Travel more
2) Read more: real books, not just quick articles on LinkedIn or Facebook
3) Reboot my face, body, and overall health
4) Specifically take steps to boost my immunity
5) Move, for crying out loud: reclaim some flexibility with yoga, my favorite exercise
6) Begin writing for real
7) Finish redoing the laundry room once and for all
8) Resurrect the other home improvement I put on old until the laundry room remodel was finished
9) Start thinking about the next phase of my career
10) Get out of the house and socialize for crying out loud
I had all kinds of reasons for these goals in particular, and despite the large number of them, I made good on them the first 10 months of this year.
Why so many, you ask? What’s that definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result? I wanted different results in life. I knew it was pretty ambitious to name 10 big goals for myself but I once upon a time I was a life coach so I know a thing or two about setting goals and keeping them.
No matter how you look at it, my 2017 was much more ambitious than 2016. Last year I specifically set one goal, and that was to eat more bacon. Everything is better with bacon. I mean, really. More bacon should be on everyone’s new year list.
I’m going to take the next several days to break down how I did with each of these goals so I can give some thought to what’s on my agenda for 2018. You may have figured out that I like quotes. This time I think of that line from Mary Oliver’s poem “The Summer Day”:
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
Are you with me?